Nowadays, many young women fall victim when they involve themselves with much older men. Most of them do it out of sexual curiosity, thinking that older men know better of what to do so they feel safer. However, there are a lot of normal relationships involving women and much older men and their relationships are based on love, just like most of others. What are the potential problems of relationships with much older men that you don’t need to worry about in similar age unions, and what can you do about them? |
There is a famous saying that love is blind. You can fall head over heels in love with someone regardless of your age difference, which is very true. The only problem is that love is not forever blind, and one day you will start seeing problems and if you are not prepared for it, your relationship will very much be at risk. Consider these following points before you decide to get involved with a much older man. 1. Ways of thinking. You may notice that sometimes you and your parents have totally different views over the same subject. You think they are being absurd and they think you are being weird. The same generation gap may be present in your relationship with a much older man. Different views will often lead to arguments and couple quarrels. 2. Different interest. Being young, you probably enjoy going out to the pub, trying new restaurants, singing karaoke, watching movies in the cinema and so on. Being older, your partner may prefer more relaxing activities at home such as gardening or watching dvd. If you think it is boring, there you are, you have understood my point. 3. Sexual desires. As a man gets older, their sex drive decreases. It is not going to be totally gone, but he probably won’t be able to keep up as much to keep you satisfied in long term. This will not only create tension, it poses a big risk to the relationship if you end up meeting someone else that seems to be able to give you more. 4. Social activities. You will probably feel weird being around his group of friends, or more likely the bunch of old guys who treat you like a little kid. On the other hand your partner may also not enjoy spending time with your friends who treat him like an old man. Not that you feel comfortable bringing him to your own gatherings. There are a lot more other things that need to be considered to have a happy relationship. Most of them are common sense. The hard part is to keep the relationship smooth and happy. Make sure you know the right thing to do when conflict happens as all relationships that are based on love deserve a second chance together. By Melissa Lee |