|If only getting over a serious boyfriend had the same support system that quitting smoking does, I think things would be a lot easier for women. Can you imagine how great life would be if there was a patch you could stick on your arm to make you forget about your ex-boyfriend in your time of weakness and your moments of need. Until science catches up with our needs were just going to have to tough it out and quit cold turkey.|
|We all know that breaking up with your boyfriend is a hard thing to do and if he is the one that breaks up with you, it’s even harder. But what is often overlooked is that the breakup and actually getting over the person are two totally different things. And in most cases getting over him is a lot harder than breaking up with him. It is often said that it takes the same amount of time to get over your boyfriend as you spent in the relationship with him, I don’t disagree with this analysis but I think there are things that you can do to help you get over your boyfriend more quickly and with less drama.|
Below are some simple tips that you should keep in mind when trying to get over your boyfriend after your relationship has ended.
Getting over your boyfriend tip number one. The best way to get over a boy, is to get under the next one. No I’m not saying become a slut but women are emotionally connected to the man they are sleeping with or the man they slept with last. No matter how much of a jerk he was there are still hormones raging in your body that are telling you to reconnect with him because he’s the last man you are intimate with. If he wasn’t a jerk at all, your hormones are that much stronger. One of the best things for you to do in the process of getting over him is to have a fling with a new guy. This will help you clear your head and cleanse your palate so to speak.
Getting over your boyfriend tip number two. No booty calls or post-breakup hookups whatsoever. I don’t care how many cosmos you had at the bar or how desperate you feel don’t call him or answer his calls and whatever you, don’t sleep with him. Having post-breakup sex is only going to make that torture worse. You need to make a clean break emotionally and physically. He needs to be 100% out of your life to make room for your next wonderful relationship waiting in the wings.
Getting over your boyfriend tip number three. Let’s not be friends. Similar to the point above about sleeping with him you need to remember that they are your ex and it is time to move on. As harsh as this sounds, do not remain friends with him, it’s only going to mess things up for you. No meeting for coffee, no having lunch to see how things are going, I don’t care what the reason is being friends with your ex-boyfriend is nothing but trouble and will make it nearly impossible to get over him.
Getting over your boyfriend tip number four. Try getting yourself. You were nice to him, you gave him love, attention, your time and your energy. Now that you are broken up with him an easy way to help get over your boyfriend is to devote that same energy, time, love and attention to yourself. Start a new diet, get the gym, go shopping for new outfit, get your hair done, now is the time to love yourself and get the new you ready for the next man in your life. Do not, I repeat, do not sit around the house eating cheeseburger happy meal’s crying over the fact that he is gone. Now is the time to love yourself so get out there, look hot, have fun and a new boy will be in your life before you know it.
By Heather Eaton